Recently I was thinking about changes I need to make within myself, and how large they are. I was wondering if I’ll be able to make them successfully.
One large change I need to make is making decisions at the time they need making, instead of putting them off or waffling about them. That day it seemed like it would take more energy and strength than I could muster up, but the day after thinking about this, it felt like it would be easy.
What was the difference between one day and the next? It was the energy I had. When you have enough energy, the right kind of energy, then things are much easier, much more doable.
When changing your life, change your attitude
Sometimes when you need to make changes in your life or behavior you need to change your attitude. Change your attitude and the rest will come more easily. Sometimes the hardest work you will do in making a change is changing your attitude.
Why is this? It is because the attitude you have toward or about something encompasses your beliefs about it. And your beliefs shape your thoughts and your actions.
You cannot act in a way that is contrary to your beliefs. You may disagree with me about this, saying that you often act contrarily to what you believe, and that may be true. But, on a deep level, your core beliefs, and you may not even be aware of what they are, will prevent you or compel you to act in particular ways and bring about results that may be very different from what you want or expect.
It is the effects of our deep core beliefs that can make something like positive thinking or the book and movie The Secret seem like nonsense, or impossible. Because it doesn’t matter how much you want to meet the right partner or make a ton of money, and it doesn’t matter if you repeat the right affirmation a hundred times a day (though doing this can be helpful, as we’ll discuss in a bit), if your underlying beliefs are radically different from your conscious, stated beliefs, the desired outcome won’t happen.
I speak from much, much experience! For so many years I wondered why, even when I tried an affirmation or three and thought I was changing my beliefs, I didn’t get what I really wanted. It took time to start to see that it is the deep core beliefs that underlie the surface beliefs, wants, and desires and drive my behavior far more reliably than my conscious thoughts. Damn, it’s frustrating!
An example, one of many, from my own life is the belief I just discovered that putting myself into the public arena is dangerous. I have worked at building my business for years, but have struggled consistently, again and again finding myself falling apart and getting ill just as I am about to take off and make the leap to the next level. I recently found that I have a long-standing belief that if I get sick I will be safe from dangerous situations. Now it may not seem that having one’s own business is dangerous, but if you look at all the potential for failing, being disrespected, seen as a fool, doing the wrong thing, and so on and so on, you see how it can feel very dangerous. I had no clue that was in there until just a couple months ago! Looking back it is easy to see why I have not gotten farther than I have. But the fact that I have found this core belief means that I get to change it, and it means I get to change my attitudes and my results as well.
This is the beauty of understanding that your attitudes drive your results. If you are not getting the results you want, change your attitude! If you can’t change your attitude, or it seems to be absolutely correct but you are still not getting what you want, then it is time to start looking below the surface to what your deepest core beliefs are. They may surprise the heck out of you.
Best Use of Affirmations
There are a different ways to get to the bottom of our beliefs and change them. Even though saying affirmations may seem useless, especially if you don’t see changes quickly, they can have an effect. They are a sort of top-down effect, not as quick-acting as digging in and finding the deep core belief, but they can help to start to change those beliefs.
What you tell yourself over and over again affects what you believe, so that when you repeat the same thing again and again, you start to believe it. Repeating an affirmation is a way to drill down to the core and change things. They do work to some extent, and they give added energy and momentum to the changes you are making to your core beliefs.
In my opinion, however, when you have a stubborn core belief, just saying affirmations will take a terribly long time, or just not be effective. If a belief you are changing is not particularly strong, it is more easily dispelled and changed by using affirmations.
When you are working to dislodge the deepest beliefs, affirmations can help you put a new belief into place, while working to understand the old belief and root it out, helping to replace it with a new, positive belief.
Thus, one of the best uses of affirmations is to help reinforce a change in attitude and/or belief, and in this way they will be much more effective than thinking that just saying the affirmation will bring about the desired results.